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So.. Recently I have been in a total over-haul of old thought patterns, habits and beliefs that no longer serve my greater purpose in life. This is a major emotional shedding and very uplifting. These things have all been evident for a long time.. However, nothing ever shows itself fully as is, until you fully let go of what isn’t. I have been giving my advice but not taking it nearly enough. I choose to change this and I have been. The rewards have been absolutely life-changing. I am starting to feel better than ever.
I urge and invite others to challenge who they think they are and who they actually are.. ♥♥
There are a million ways we excuse ourselves from living our own, very best lives!
We constantly point our fingers at others, at circumstance… Playing the victim of life..
But all we are really doing is practicing fear based self-victimization and utilizing our defense mechanisms to their fullest.
Constantly in a fight or flight struggle externally.. And within ourselves.
We make up our stories of how we have been betrayed, how we sacrifice so much for others to come up empty handed in the end.. We tell ourselves we’re not good enough, or deserving.. God (don’t be so subjective here) must be so cruel to put ME through this.
The truth is.. It’s nobody’s fault but your own. Each moment you give into your stories, your anger, your resentment, your bad habits or place blame, you are allowing these things to manifest as part of your reality. If you are sitting around and over thinking, wishing things could be better.. But nothing happens.
it’s not going to happen. Until you do something about it.
Feeling dissatisfied, empty, angry, apathetic, and having low self esteem is your soul’s calling for you to WAKE UP. To yourself.
To see who you really are and what you are capable of. IF you were happy, IF you were truly in alignment with your core beliefs, you would not be self destructive. You would not be giving in to addictive habits and self destructive rituals that call and tempt us via obsessive thought. You would posses self control. The only self you may posses, the only thing you DO have control over.
Our dramas are so compelling we cannot resist falling for them.. But that is all we are doing.. Falling for them. A whirlwind romance comprised of avoidance of self-realization. We may compare our lives to the fictional stories we see in movies, on TV, in the media, even to the people around us.. We can begin to live vicariously through all of this and forget to live our own lives! What makes YOU happy? What are YOU here specifically to do or share? What purpose do YOU assign to your life? You are the only one who chooses this. Don’t sell yourself short here.. You have inherent value (if only you could believe in that.)
Life really does not have to be a series of repeated, self defeating patterns. You do not need to keep sabotaging your health and happiness.. And you do not need someone else to tell your how or show you the way.
The ingredients for a better life : Self realization. Self love. Acceptance of what is. Determination to be your best (whatever that is for you!) Imagine all of this becoming second nature to you.. Do you believe you are worthy of feeling fulfilled?
We are fully capable, beautiful creations and co-creators.. Just look around you. Inspire yourself to open your eyes and hearts to the greatness that surrounds you and let the natural momentum propel you in moments to come.
Life is a gift and until you learn to utilize the tools you have been given with appreciation and gratitude, you may feel like something is lacking..
Sleep walking through life is surely the quickest way to miss out on the juicy layers of life right below your nose!
~The Alternative LifeStylist~
“The way in which we view something defines for us what we’re going to allow ourselves to see of it. A point of view is merely one degree out of the three hundred and sixty degrees of a circle; each point of view can see from that point only, and so is three hundred and fifty nine degrees blind. When we become fixated on our “point of view,” our interpretations and expectations blind us. This is true of how we view our practice as well. Since our practice is about opening to our life as it is, opening to this moment as it is, and allowing this clear seeing to pervade our life, it is important that our view of practice also be open and clear. This requires honesty with ourselves and our own motives and a very open and clear investigation and recognition of the ways in which we might be approaching our practice as a means to try to grasp at things within our life, instead of opening to the vastness of our life itself.”
So I have been pondering what to post as my first official blog post…
I have this curse of being awfully deliberate in everything I do and things that come in the ‘right’ order make me happy. So I decided I’d post about why I haven’t posted… This will lead into all of the other subjects I wish to write about.
I tend to live my life on the notion that everything is in constant flux and change. Beliefs systems change as we experience our lives.. Our opinions about self, others and the world around us shift as we are met with new challenges and understandings of both an external and internal nature. My life up until now has been unbelievably synchronistic and meaningful, even in the moments I thought it to be everything but.
I have been through hell and back, and back again. I will write about my battles while growing up and how I managed to find peace in the chaos.. And how I now strive for more order [or what I call, practice], while accepting that I cannot cling to it. Basically, anything I write in this blog is subject to change and may inevitably be something entirely different down the road.. So I therefore, choose to be as honest and sincere as I can be when I share and navigate these experiences with you, right now.
There is something to be said of living in extremes and loving it and taking what you have discovered there and channeling it into balance. To remain neutral to life’s tests, to keep an open mind, to look for the signs and affirmations that we are where we are meant to be, in every single moment. To be patient and kind with ourselves and our own pace.. To not compare our journey with that of another individual. Life’s essence is infinite, the most complex intricate, yet simple and elegant design of all possibility. If we truly remain open to the possibilities, we remain open to all perspectives, all ideas, all solutions. This is creative thinking, this is completely tossing out the box and making your own rules.. Living the life, exploring the ideas that resonate deeply with who you are at your core, so you may clearly see and comprehend your passion, but mostly feel it. Tap into the truth of self. You are vast, and you have the power to reflect and go deeply within yourself..
So I fumble around with the idea of what to write first because life is so big! The connections could go forever once you let go of limitations. I don’t want to forget certain details that may spark something in someone reading this and completely over-shoot the point. There are certain words that hold the power of flicking on the switch of awareness and if I can harness those words and tie them up together correctly, I can help liberate minds, souls, hearts.. What is more important?
So here is to keeping an open mind, and understanding that we are all in a very different mind set. Our conditioning and attitudes toward our experiences and our deep underlying fears dictate what we believe to be real and true. We have the power to change our perspective and thus change our realities. Let’s see what magic can come from a little imaginative, open & playful thinking.
“Most people are not really free. They are confined by the niche in the world that they carve out for themselves. They limit themselves to fewer possibilities by the narrowness of their vision.”
Well, it finally happened…
I registered my own domain name and officially have a REAL blog that I can begin pouring my passion into!! I’m pretty ecstatic, I have been planning it for years and now it has come to be. My focus on this blog will be about living your life the way you want, allowing others to do the same and thinking for yourself.
This human life can leave us feeling really defeated and low about ourselves and each other, but we mustn’t give up faith– For it is all we really have : ) Part of my purpose in life is to advocate for those who have been through ‘Hell’ on Earth, so we may find ‘Heaven’ together right here.. Finding peace after living a life in turmoil is no easy task and it takes dedication, practice & balance to achieve.. It’s much easier to do when we recognize each person and event in our lives as a series of teachers & lessons… Let’s help expedite and facilitate positive growth in individuals, communities and ultimately, society!
I personally like to live my life with a holistic approach, keeping the mind, body & spirit in sync and feeding the parts of my whole that allow me to continue to progress and expand my awareness. It’s so important to really tap in and listen to our bodies, feel our feelings and develop a positive mental relationship with our inner and external worlds.. This is essential to the full integration of knowledge, imagination and intuition and the key to unlocking all human potential.
Some topics I currently anticipate posting about:
Healthy lifestyle (exercise, eating, self-image), societal ‘norms’ & how we can feel comfortable being who we are, philosophy, creativity/self-expression, art, DIY projects, music, alternative medicine & alternative education/resources.
I will also be posting my own art, poetry and creations.
I hope you will enjoy reading & please feel encouraged to share your own thoughts and experiences as they apply : )
~The Alternative LifeStylist~